Why Do I Even Have to Ask Him? The Mental Load Fight (EP79)

Описание: “Why Do I Even Have to Ask?”
That sentence has ended more arguments than money or sex—and in this episode of Change the Odds, we unpack why.
Have you ever felt like the project manager of your own home?
Not just doing the work—but being the only one who noticed it needed to be done?
In this Fight Club episode of Change the Odds the Podcast, Kevin A. Thompson, alongside hosts Blaine and Adrienne Neufeld, breaks down one of the most painful dynamics in modern marriage: mental load.
A wife is exhausted from carrying the house, the kids, and the invisible weight of “knowing.”
A husband is overwhelmed by expectations he didn’t realize existed.
Then it happens—the line that breaks everything: “You never asked.”
In this episode, you’ll discover:
Why “You never asked” hurts so deeply
How attachment styles (anxious & avoidant) quietly fuel this fight
What mental load really is—and why it matters more than chores
Why serving without asking can actually create resentment
How secure attachment changes the way couples ask, notice, and respond
Practical tools to stop scorekeeping and start sharing responsibility
Kevin also shares a powerful personal story, real-life examples, and simple shifts that help couples move from simmering resentment to shared strength.
If you’ve ever felt unseen…
If you’ve ever felt blindsided…
If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I have to ask?”—this episode is for you.
🎧 Listen now and learn how asking can become intimacy—and noticing can become love.