We’re Engaged… But Something Feels Off (A Counselor Explains Why)

Описание: You can love someone deeply… and still feel uneasy about the future.
If emotional conversations go quiet, shallow, or get shut down then this video is for you.

In today’s Counselor Reacts, I read a story from someone who is engaged, in love, and sensing something subtle but important beneath the surface of their relationship. There’s no screaming. No chaos. No obvious red flags.
Just a quiet fear: “Will we be able to go deep when life gets hard?”

As a licensed counselor, I slow this moment down and explain what’s actually happening emotionally and neurologically when one partner longs for connection and the other shuts down. This isn’t about blame. It’s not about diagnosing your partner. And it’s definitely not about fear-mongering before marriage.

It’s about emotional capacity.

In this video, we explore:
• Why emotional shutdown often comes from learned safety and not lack of love
• The difference between kindness and emotional availability
• Why “we don’t fight” isn’t the same as emotional intimacy
• The real red flag couples should look for before marriage
• How emotional skills can be built before resentment and loneliness set in

If you’re engaged or seriously considering marriage and part of you is whispering,
“Will this relationship be able to hold the hard parts?”
That voice isn’t anxiety.

It’s foresight.

And foresight is what builds relationships that last.

✨ Preparation prevents heartbreak.
✨ Emotional safety is built — not assumed.
✨ Love alone doesn’t teach emotional skills.

If this resonates, you’re not alone and you’re not broken for noticing it.