Why You Keep Having the Same Fight

Описание: Your nervous system, not your communication, is driving your relationship conflicts. Until you regulate, nothing changes.

We break down what’s actually happening during heated arguments. When anger spirals, when sadness shuts things down, when one partner gets big and the other shrinks — it’s not about logic.
It’s your nervous system.

We explore:
• Why anger and sadness are two sides of the same coin
• How childhood survival strategies show up in adult conflict
• The “wall of words” defense mechanism
• Why two dysregulated partners get nowhere
• The exact steps to regulate in real time
• Why communication tools fail when you’re physiologically hijacked

If you’ve ever thought, “Why are we having the same argument again?”
this is why.

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00:00 When Anger Takes Over
00:37 Getting Big vs Getting Small
01:37 Anger and Sadness: Two Sides of the Same Coin
02:18 Childhood Survival Strategies
03:50 The “Wall of Words” Defense
04:04 Fight, Flight, Freeze Explained
05:24 Why You Can’t Think Clearly in Conflict
06:36 Rewiring the Nervous System
08:07 Choosing to Regulate First
09:22 Two Dysregulated Partners Get Nowhere
10:18 Why Communication Isn’t the Real Issue