John Covey Demonstrates 3 Habits To Lead From Your Heart

Описание: John Covey on 5 Habits to Lead From Your Heart

3 Commitments to lead from your heart:
1. Be respectful: to yourself and others. Try to recognize throughout this process, and in life, any disrespectful thoughts you might have. The example John gives is “That’s uncomfortable. What's wrong with that guy?” If you have thoughts like that, just recognize them.
2. Be your best & accept the best of everyone around you.
3. Be present.

John wants to put himself out there, to show what it’s like to step out of his comfort zone and do something scary. He explains that when you’re in your head, the back part of your brain, you want to protect yourself. If you lead from the heart its about progression and you’re using the full brain. So he decides to dance!
insert dance pic
After his amazing dance break, John challenges everyone to get really present with what they’re feeling, Whether they wanted to dance, felt uncomfortable cheering, felt embarrassed for him, or something different.

An experience is what we think it is. Those thoughts determine how we feel and what we do.

Everyone has a different experience which is totally okay. John asks everyone to recognize whether or not their experience with him dancing was experienced in the head “protect yourself” or in the heart. He decides to turn on the music again, but this time he asks everyone to experience it with their heart and get as many high fives as they can!

John invites everyone back to their seats as he explains the purpose of the exercise. When John was dancing by himself it might have been a little weird but when he invited the audience to join in on high fives and chicken wings, everyone was thrilled to participate! The point John makes is that we often miss out on thrilling opportunities to be in our hearts because we think “Nah, that’s just not me. I can’t do that.” Instead, we should be saying “No, we get to choose.” Sometimes it’s a really hard choice and you need to work up to it, but other times it’s easy to jump into an experience with your heart.

What are the experiences that trigger that choice to get into your head and start protecting? Once you recognize those moments you can start choosing to change them and lead from you heart. You can play the game a new way.
Each of us have 3 gifts: being present, the ability to choose, and having our conscience as our compass.

Our conscience is like a compass, its an internal guide. Our conscience is also like our five senses. Our senses have 2 purposes: to protect us and to progress us.
John uses an example of drinking rotten milk. Your sense of taste will alert you that the milk is bad and to spit it out. Your sense of smell will alert you that the milk smells sour.
Just like your senses, your conscience has a reaction to protect you or progress you. So if you’re having a bad thought like, “I’m such a loser”, your conscience is going to give you a bad feeling because it doesn’t want you to think that unhealthy thought. Your conscience is trying to tell you that’s an unhealthy thought. But often, we confuse that bad feeling with confirmation we’re a bad person and we feel worse.
We know that if we accidentally drink rotten milk we’re not an unworthy or broken person. We throw away the rotten milk and move on.
What if every time you had a thought that wasn’t respectful & it felt horrible, that was just your conscience telling you that thought is not healthy, that thought isn’t who you are.
It was never telling you that you’re broken or less than, it was telling you you’re more than the negative thought you told yourself.

When we look at a new born or child we know they are worthy. We don’t question if they’re worthy we just know they are. Well like a baby, your worth does not fluctuate. You cannot earn your worth. You are worthy NOW. The difference between you and the baby is that you have had lots of experiences but some of which you might not have understood. There is a point for everyone, which is specific to you, when you start going from “I’m completely worthy” to “I’m mostly worthy”. No matter when this moment was or how it happened, you need to know that you still are worthy of respect and love.

John then invites everyone to another little dance party. He invites people to come up one by one and show one dance move everyone else can follow.

In closing, John challenges everyone to one thing; when you feel that icky feeling or a bad emotion, tell yourself “I’m in my head. Nothing is wrong with me. I’m not broken!”

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