Psychology of People Who Are Always Too Nice

Описание: Psychology of People Who Are Always Too Nice
You apologize when they bump into you. You smile when you want to scream. You say "it's okay" when it's absolutely not. Being "too nice" isn't just a personality trait—it is often a trauma response. In this video, we decode why your brain learned that "being invisible is safe," and the high price you pay for keeping everyone else happy.

[📝 A NOTE ON THIS EPISODE] We often confuse "niceness" with "kindness." Kindness is a choice; Niceness is often a compulsion. In psychology, this is known as the "Fawn Response"—a survival strategy where you merge with the needs of others to avoid conflict. If you feel exhausted from fixing everyone else's problems while ignoring your own, this video is for you.

[⏳ TIMESTAMPS] 0:00 - The "Apology Reflex" 0:42 - Hyper-Vigilance: Why you read "Emotional Temperature" 1:25 - The Secret Contract: "If I give, you won't hurt me" 2:10 - The Grief of Losing Yourself 2:55 - The Lighthouse Metaphor (Why you are valuable)

[📚 RECOMMENDED READING] These are the books I studied to create this video. If you want to break free from people-pleasing, I highly recommend reading them:

📘 "Not Nice" by Dr. Aziz Gazipura The most practical guide on how to stop people-pleasing and speak up for yourself. 👉 Get the Book: https://www.amazon.com/Not-Nice-Pleas...

📕 "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker The book that defined the "Fawn Response" and why we try to appease abusers. 👉 Get the Book: https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-S...

📗 "When the Body Says No" by Dr. Gabor Maté Explains the physical cost (illness) of hiding your true emotions. 👉 Get the Book: https://www.amazon.com/When-Body-Says...

[🧠 RESEARCH & CONCEPTS] Scientific concepts discussed in this analysis:

The Fawn Response: The fourth trauma response (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn) identified by psychotherapist Pete Walker.

Covert Contracts: A concept by Dr. Robert Glover referring to unspoken agreements ("I will be nice to you, so you must love me").

Emotional Hyper-Vigilance: The habit of constantly scanning people's moods to ensure safety.

[🗣️ JOIN THE DISCUSSION] Question for the Community: What is the one thing you said "YES" to recently, when your entire body wanted to scream "NO"? 👇 Share your story in the comments. You are not alone.

[⚠️ DISCLAIMER] The content provided in this video is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment.