Your Child Is Not the Problem: Parenting Triggers & What Conscious Parenting Reveals with Dr Shefali

Описание: Parenting is not hard because you are failing. It is hard because it asks you to face parts of yourself you were never taught how to regulate.

In this episode of Raw With J, I sit down with Dr Shefali, world-renowned clinical psychologist and author of The Conscious Parent, to explore emotional regulation, parenting triggers, and what conscious parenting really means beyond techniques and quick fixes.

If you have ever noticed your child reflecting your stress, anxiety, or dysregulation this conversation will shift the way you see parenting.

We talk about:
What conscious parenting actually is and how it differs from gentle parenting
Why emotional regulation in parents shapes child emotional regulation
Parenting triggers and what they are really about
How children borrow a parent’s nervous system
Supporting kids through divorce and major life changes
Parenting and technology and why connection must replace control
Why self-love in parents matters more than perfection
Re-parenting your inner child while raising your own
Breaking generational patterns without blame or shame
This is not about being a perfect parent.
It is about becoming a regulated one.

Connect with me
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Connect with Dr Shefali
Website → https://www.drshefali.com/

00:00 Kids need your presence, not just tech removal
01:00 Welcome + how Dr Shefali shaped J’s parenting journey
02:25 What conscious parenting actually means
05:05 Parenting as a mirror + learning regulation through separation
06:05 Fear, control, and unconditional love
07:00 Letting go of children as an extension of us
08:10 Accepting who your child truly is
09:05 Achievement culture and “good enoughness”
10:00 Boys, usefulness, and tech as regulation
10:55 Australia’s social media ban and what happens when tech is removed
11:45 Replacing tech with presence and nervous system scaffolding
12:55 Becoming the steady anchor during identity change
13:35 Separation and identity shifts
15:05 Marriage myths and why separation is not failure
17:20 Divorce as a path to authenticity
19:05 Supporting children through separation
21:25 Seekers, growth, and choosing authenticity
24:10 Boundaries, friendship circles, and standards with compassion
30:05 Why self-love is foundational in parenting
32:20 What “doing the work” really looks like
34:25 Re-parenting the inner child
36:20 Self-talk and how it shapes your parenting
37:05 Forgiveness and compassion for your own parents
39:20 Australia event dates + coaching mention
40:35 Closing reflections

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