Wife revealed she never felt in love with me in a three year relationship, leaving me questioning..

Описание: Wife revealed she never felt in love with me in a three year relationship, leaving me questioning if there's a path forward. My wife and I have been together for three years, married for about two. I'm 32. She's 30. And we have a daughter who's nearly two in such a short span. We've been through so much moving in together, juggling full-time jobs, experiencing pregnancy, getting married even, and during the heartbreak of a miscarriage.
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 It's all been so intense and emotional. The kind of whirlwind that sweeps you up before you have time to catch your breath. Throughout it all. I've always believed in us. Yes, we've had our fair share of major struggles. Sometimes it felt like nothing but struggle, but I've kept fighting for our relationship because there was always something they're worth holding onto or so I thought everything changed during a brutally honest conversation we had recently.

That's when she told me something that absolutely shattered me. She said that after just about six months together, she realized she didn't feel the feeling that elusive in love spark you're supposed to have. And now three years later, she still doesn't feel it. She confessed. She's always struggled with figuring out what being in love really even means in that.

Now that she's in therapy, four months and counting, she's finally starting to untangle those emotions. She'd never said any of this to me before. Hearing it for the first time felt like the floor dropping out from under me. She insisted she loves me, cares deeply about me and sees me as family, but she questions whether that love is enough.

Is it romantic love or is it just about safety, familiarity? This attempt at building a life together? That uncertainty cut right through me. It especially hurt to hear that she has felt that spark with others before, just not with me. She admitted those prior relationships were chaotic, sometimes even unsafe.

But with me, everything always seemed right on paper stability, a daughter, a future, just never the feeling. We're both completely emotionally exhausted. I can see the toll it's taken on her just as I feel it in myself. I've made so many mistakes bottling up my emotions until I finally lash out saying things I regret when I'm overwhelmed.

I recognize that, and now I've finally started therapy myself. Just one month in. I'm committed to working on my issues for my own sake, for hers, and most of all for our daughter. She's had a hard life. Two, a rough childhood with no real blueprint for love or family. I know that this is her first long-term relationship, that it's been a lot for her.

Too much, too fast. Pregnancy, marriage, trying to build something solid in the midst of a storm. It's like we've been caught in a tornado, barely knowing each other before life started racing ahead of us. There have been deeper issues between us as well. Trust was broken Early things she hid from me.

Contact with an ex. Lies and secrets we never really healed from our communication has always been fraught. It can feel impossible for me to truly express how I feel without it all spiraling into conflict. It's like we're caught in these patterns that just keep pulling us further apart, never actually taking the time to build the kind of foundation a relationship really needs.

And yet, through all of this, I love her. I've always chosen to stay and to build. Our relationship isn't perfect, not by any stretch, but I've always believed there was something real and worth fighting for. We've shared laughter, real moments of connection, our love for our daughter, fleeting, but genuine moments of peace and joy.

I've seen us at our best, and I've held onto that hope. Now we've agreed to take some space. It's not a breakup, but real distance. She says she needs space to figure out what's actually real for her, to see what she feels when I'm not around to influence it. I respect that even as it terrifies me. I'm scared I'll be the only one fighting again, the only one willing to rebuild.

Can love even grow? If one person admits they never felt in love from the start, is this space going to help or is it just a drawn out goodbye? I'm willing to wait to work to give it time, but I'm also terrified that maybe in her heart she's already gone. I don't know what's real anymore right now. All I know is I needed to get these feelings out.

Update one. Last night. We finally had the big conversation. We managed to keep it calm and honest. No yelling, no blaming, just the truth laid bare between us. She opened up about how she's been feeling for a long time, and I finally let out everything I've been holding inside together. We aired out all the doubts, the pain, the toxic patterns, the shattered trust.
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