How to Deal with Sibling Conflicts

Описание: If you're had it up to here with the constant bickering and arguing 😡 between your children, I have a surprising recommendation for you: ✨stay out of it.✨

Many parents are shocked to hear that the main reason children fight is to get them involved. 🤯 So when we stop playing referee, the incentive to fight in the first place evaporates.

✨To start pulling back on being a part of your children's fighting, start by putting them in the same boat, meaning you don't have to try and assign blame to one child and comfort the other. Instead, remain neutral and ask your children for how they think they can resolve the conflict. Some scripts to try:

✅"I see you two are having an argument. I have faith that you can work it out."
✅"Would you like to go to separate rooms until you are ready to stop fighting or to the same room to work on a solution?"
✅"Would you both like to sit on my lap until you are ready to stop fighting?"

📣SPECIAL NOTE: If a child is hitting the other or throwing something that could injure their sibling, calmly separate the two. Once everyone is physically safe, come back to BOTH children and say, "I can see you're very angry/sad/upset. Would a hug help?" This can melt away the hurt feelings and calm everyone down to then discuss solutions and make amends. You could ask, "Would you be willing to help your sibling feel better? Do you want to hug your sibling first or should I?"