149 - They Seem Good… But Something Feels Off: Understanding Communal Narcissism

Описание: Ever worked with someone who seems endlessly kind, helpful and “selfless”… yet somehow leaves you feeling uneasy, indebted, or quietly undermined?

In this video, I unpack communal narcissism in the workplace. It’s the hidden form of narcissism that doesn’t show up as arrogance or ego, but as over-helping, martyrdom, moral superiority, and performative kindness.

You’ll learn:

✅ What communal narcissism actually is
✅ Why some people build their identity around being seen as “the good one”
✅ The subtle signs that someone’s generosity isn’t as innocent as it looks
✅ Real workplace examples you’ll probably recognise immediately

This is for anyone who’s ever thought, “They seem nice… but something feels off.”

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TIMESTAMPS
02:22 - What is a Communal Narcissist
02:16 - Why They Do It
02:23 - Ego
02:44 - Control
03:02 - Morale Highground
03:20 - Hiding in Plain Sight
03:40 - How to Spot One
03:54 - Endless Announcements
04:10 - Humble Brags
04:33 - Martyrdom
04:48 - Silent Ledger
05:08 - Criticism Boomerang
05:23 - Selective Audience
05:59 - Real-life examples
06:08 - The Office Gossip
06:34 - The Martyr
07:00 - The Moral Crusader
07:30 - The Selfless Star
07:57 - The Fallout
08:45 - The Wrap-up
09:35 - What Next?
10:15 - Outro

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