3. Porn Isn’t the Problem: Triggers, Emotions, and Unmet Needs - Choosing Something Other than Porn

Описание: Porn use is rarely about sex.
It’s about regulation, emotion, and unmet needs.

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In this lesson, you’ll learn how triggers work, why emotions matter, and how porn becomes a coping strategy.

Understanding this step creates space between urge and action.
This is Step 2 of the Quit Porn Quick Start Course.

Chapters:
0:00 Course Note: Watch in Order
0:15 Part 2: Porn Is About Regulation (Not Sex)
1:31 What Is a Trigger? (Clear Definition)
1:59 Common Triggers (Loneliness, Stress, Rejection, Boredom)
3:32 Triggers Aren’t Your Fault, But They’re Your Responsibility
4:20 Trigger → Signal: What Do You Need Right Now?
4:28 Feelings → Needs → Choice (The Core Framework)
4:45 Body Signals + Polyvagal Basics (Why This Feels So Strong)
5:37 Practice: Where Do You Feel Anger in Your Body?
6:41 Needs Are Your Responsibility (Ask for Connection, Safety, Boundaries)
7:39 Porn Doesn’t Meet the Need (It Distracts + Adds Shame)
8:00 Create Space, Not Perfection (Space Gives Choice)
8:25 Build Skills: Downshift the Nervous System
8:57 The 90-Second Urge Window (Ride It Out)
9:30 Practical Interruptions (Cold Water, Move, Breathe, Text Someone)
11:25 Triggers vs Wounds (Trauma, Relational Pain, Survival Strategies)
12:14 Action Steps: Identify Your Top 3 Triggers
13:00 Action Steps: Journal for One Week (Before, Feeling, Avoiding)
13:44 Action Steps: Name the Need + Pick 2–3 Interruptions
14:15 Share With a Safe Person (Don’t Do This Alone)
14:28 What’s Next: Step 3 (Relational Community)
14:50 Outro: Next Video + Join the Community

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