The Most Powerful Person in a Toxic Family Isn’t Who You Think (Passive Dominance Explained)

Описание: In toxic family systems, power doesn’t always look loud, aggressive, or controlling.

Often, the most influential person is the one who appears passive, reasonable, or “neutral”—but quietly shapes outcomes, alliances, and family narratives behind the scenes.

In tonight’s live discussion, we explore the psychology of passive dominance in toxic families:

• why the most powerful family member is rarely the obvious one
• how silence, compliance, and “staying out of it” become tools of control
• the difference between weakness and strategic passivity
• how passive dominance protects the family system while harming the truth-teller
• why speaking up often leads to isolation or scapegoating

This conversation isn’t about labeling people or assigning diagnoses.

It’s about learning to see power accurately—especially when it hides behind calm, politeness, or distance.

If you’ve ever felt confused about who actually runs the family, this live will help you connect the dots.

💬 Join the live chat and share reflections—not diagnoses.

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0:00 – Why Power in Toxic Families Is Often Misidentified
3:40 – What Passive Dominance Actually Means (And What It’s Not)
7:20 – Why the Loudest Person Is Usually Not the One in Control
11:10 – The Psychology of Silence as Power
15:30 – Enablers vs Passive Dominants (Critical Difference)
19:40 – How Passive Dominance Maintains the Family System
24:10 – Why Truth-Tellers Become the Threat
28:30 – The Emotional Cost to the Scapegoated Family Member

**There is live discussion in-between the content

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Mentioned In The Video:
1. Shaw, D. (2023). Shame and Self-Alienation: A Trauma-Informed Psychoanalytic Perspective. Psychoanalytic Inquiry. 1-12.

2. Cordi, T. (2025). Breaking the Cycle of Shame-based Families | CPTSDfoundation.org. Cptsdfoundation.org. https://cptsdfoundation.org/2025/01/2...

3. Self. (2024). The Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. The Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. https://www.thebowencenter.org/differ...

4. Al Aïn, S., Carré, A., Fantini-Hauwel, C., Baudouin, J.-Y., & Besche-Richard, C. (2013). What is the emotional core of the multidimensional Machiavellian personality trait? Frontiers in Psychology, 4. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2013.00454

5. Cole, T. (2001). Lying to the One you Love: The Use of Deception in Romantic Relationships. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 18(1), 107–129. https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407501181005

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