4 REASONS you have BOUNDARY ISSUES | Shadow Work & Shadow Integration

Описание: Let's talk about Four Reasons you may have boundary issues. How does this apply to shadow work and shadow integration?

There are four main reasons I find people are afraid to set boundaries.

Fear of rejection: This one is pretty obvious, but we fear that if we set boundaries, the other person won't like us anymore and will reject us. Usually, this fear comes down to being afraid of whatever reason you think they rejected you: unworthiness or something like that.

Abandonment: Abandonment is similar to rejection, except it's much more profound. Usually, when we fear abandonment, it comes from a childhood where abandonment meant death because we were incapable of taking care of ourselves as children. So as adults, we fear being left alone and unable to care for ourselves. If you can contact the part of you that worries about this and prove that you will never abandon it and will always take care of it, this fear will start to go away.

Conflict: There are two main reasons people fear conflict. They either fear that they will collapse and get walked on, or they may go too far in the conflict. If you're afraid of collapsing, you must ask yourself why you are fearful of this. What might make you collapse, and what should you do about it? If you fear going overboard, you need to understand what might cause you to do that and deal with that. You may have repressed anger that needs expression from your system.

Abuse: There are two different versions of this, you are currently in an abusive situation, or you were at one point and feared that stating boundaries may lead to psychological or physical harm. Getting out of that situation is the first step if you're in the first camp. You may need help with this, and some organizations can support you in this process. However, if you are no longer in that circumstance and fear it coming back up, it is essential to know that you are an adult now and that you can remove yourself from abusive situations at the first sign of trouble. However, to integrate it fully, you must build a relationship with the part of you that fears this and prove that you will take care of it no matter what happens.

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