3 KEY Skills To Better Your Communication With Your Spouse

Описание: In Part 2 of the communication series, we break down two skills that make hard conversations feel safer: validation and active listening. You’ll learn what validation actually is, how to reflect what you heard without agreeing, and how to catch yourself when you are defensive listening.

Then we cover repair attempts, what to say when you need a do-over mid-conversation, and a simple reset cue you can use to reconnect before a small moment becomes a bigger fight.

If you’re listening to this and thinking, “I get it — but I don’t know how to do this when I’m actually triggered,” that’s exactly why we created our Relationship Renovation Patreon community. Patreon is where we help couples practice these communication skills in real life, not just understand them. Inside the community, you’ll get deeper teaching, live Q&As with us, and support applying validation, repair, and emotional safety to your actual relationship — not a hypothetical one.   / relationshiprenovationpodcast  

And if you’re realizing that communication issues in your relationship feel stuck, repetitive, or emotionally charged, and you don’t want to keep trying to figure it out alone, we also offer private coaching and discovery calls. Some patterns need personalized support to untangle — especially when triggers, old wounds, or trust issues are involved — and that’s okay. If you’re ready for more focused help, you can learn more about working with us privately through the link below.
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Timestamps
00:00 Intro, Part 2 of the communication series
00:55 Today’s focus: validation + active listening, plus repair attempts
01:21 Validation does not mean agreement
02:19 Defensive listening vs active listening overview
02:34 What validation is, definition
03:06 Active listening prompt: repeat back what you heard
06:18 Why you can’t validate without active listening
06:27 Signs you’re being defensive
06:33 Biggest sign: you’re already planning your response while they’re talking
13:53 Repair attempts section begins
14:33 Repair attempt phrase: “can we try that again” “rewind”
14:54 Code word example: “burnt toast”
15:11 Repair attempt script continues
27:12 Wrap up: this is hard, normalize it, keep practicing together