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Описание: Marriage Myths

In this message, Marriage Myths, we confront some of the most widely believed — and deeply damaging — lies about marriage in modern culture. From “marriage isn’t worth it” to “marriage exists to make me happy” to “submission means inferiority,” this sermon challenges cultural narratives and re-centers marriage on God’s design.

Rooted in Ephesians 5:21–33, the Apostle Paul shows us that marriage only makes sense when viewed through reverence for Christ. Before addressing wives and husbands specifically, Paul begins with a foundational command:

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

Biblical marriage begins with mutual humility, Spirit-filled living, and a shared submission to Jesus as Lord. When reverence for Christ is removed, marriage becomes distorted by trauma, culture, Hollywood, social media, or personal experience.

This message tackles three major myths:

Myth 1: Marriage is not worth pursuing.
Many are delaying or avoiding marriage not just because it’s hard to find the right person — but because they’re unsure it’s even good. Yet marriage is not a social construct or tax benefit; it is a God-created covenant rooted in Genesis 2. Before sin, before nations, before cities — there was marriage. And according to Ephesians 5:32, marriage ultimately points to Christ and the Church. Marriage is worth pursuing because it preaches the gospel.

Myth 2: Marriage exists to make me happy.
While marriage brings joy, happiness is the byproduct — not the goal. Christ loved the Church not merely to make her happy, but to make her holy. In the same way, God uses marriage to shape our character, deepen our maturity, and form Christlikeness in us. The question in marriage is not, “What am I getting?” but “Who am I becoming?”

Myth 3: Submission means inferiority & headship means oppression.
In a culture sensitive to power dynamics, Paul’s words can feel triggering. But biblical submission does not mean women are less valuable, voiceless, or called to tolerate abuse. It means voluntarily honoring God’s design for order — just as Christ submitted to the Father without being inferior.

Likewise, headship does not mean dominance or control. Christ’s authority looked like sacrifice. It looked like a cross. Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the Church — initiating love, creating safety, nourishing faith, and laying down their lives.

When authority looks like Jesus, it doesn’t shrink a woman — it strengthens her.

Marriage is not primarily about emotion; it is about mission. In Genesis 2, God gave Adam responsibility before He gave him a wife. Marriage began as partnership in God’s purposes — shoulder to shoulder, moving in the same direction. The most lifeless marriages are the ones that exist only for themselves. Healthy marriages cultivate something that reflects the goodness of Eden and previews the Kingdom to come.

Whether you are single, dating, married, divorced, or rebuilding — this message invites you to examine your lens. Have your beliefs about marriage been shaped by myth, or by the fear of the Lord?

Marriage has value.
Marriage has purpose.
Marriage has mission.
And marriage, when done God’s way, displays Christ to the world.

Scripture References:
Ephesians 5:21–33
Genesis 2:15–24
Matthew 19:4–6

Keywords:
Onechurch, Filmore Bouldes, Christian marriage sermon, Ephesians 5 explained, biblical submission, biblical headship, marriage myths, Christian relationship advice, God’s design for marriage, marriage and holiness, Spirit-filled marriage, Christ and the Church

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