What Changes After 40: Love, Selfhood, and What Matters

Описание: John sits down in Costa Rica (yes, literally in a golf cart) with two therapists — Vanessa Bennett and Madeleine Downey — for a “therapists are humans too” episode built around questions you’d ask in therapy… that end up turning into real-time revelations about identity after 40, emotional safety, and what we stop tolerating once we’ve lived a little.

This conversation lands especially hard if you’re in that season of life where you’re asking: Why doesn’t the old version of me fit anymore? and What do I actually want now — in love, in friendship, in myself?

Timestamps:
01:58 What part of yourself are you still learning how to be gentle with?
04:22 When do you feel most like yourself without trying to be anything?
06:00 Who’s around you that allows you to feel most like you?
10:37 What are you afraid would change if you stopped holding it together?
16:01 What do you miss about the person you used to be?
22:46 When do you feel the most alone, even if you’re not physically alone?
28:49 What’s a truth you’ve outgrown but haven’t fully released?

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Madeleine Downey
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Vanessa Bennett

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