How to vacay everyday: BEAT ENNUI AND CONQUER THE DARK SIDE OF HAVING IT ALL

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BEAT ENNUI AND CONQUER THE DARK SIDE OF HAVING IT ALL
What's wrong with me? It could be ennui.
For years, I worked and raised a family. My days were filled with writing, editing, teaching, deadlines, school functions, sporting events, housework, homework, and multiple miscellaneous errands.
I enjoyed my work, loved my family and wouldn’t have changed a thing, but I was tired and frustrated. I longed for a vacation full of adventure and excitement but didn’t have the time to plan it nor the energy to prepare for it. I needed to anticipate more than a weekend shopping trip or date night, but there was hardly time for a shower, much less adventure. I had no energy for excitement, no purpose for passion. I was stuck.
What was wrong with me?
Ennui – (French: ahn-wee) a mood of deep weariness and discontent – is caused by overindulgence, not in food or alcohol, but overindulgence in all the good things life has to offer. In other words, my discontent was a side-effect of having it all. I was living the American dream and it was crushing me, sapping my time and energy, leaving me drained and dispirited. I was so busy maintaining my lifestyle, I didn’t have time to enjoy my life. Little did I know, I was not alone. More than 70% of Americans report physical and psychological symptoms related to ennui. (Source: American Psychological Association / American Institute of Stress)
• Low energy/ fatigue
• Anxiety/ stress
• Insomnia
• Decreased motivation
• Lack of passion and purpose
Historically ennui was a cousin of boredom and angst, but modern-day ennui has evolved into a much more pervasive, destructive force. Modern ennui is characterized by what I refer to as the “tail-on-fire” syndrome. When in the grip of this syndrome, we run around day after day with our tail on fire trying desperately to put it out while struggling to enjoy all that we have: the job, the family, the house, the pets, the car, the wardrobe, the phone, the toys.
Many of us believe that in today’s world, we don’t have to choose what we want. We can have it all. I myself am a victim of that mindset, but I assure you it is inherently flawed and simply not true. By trying to “have it all,” we are actually giving it all away. Our time, our energy, and our passion are valuable, limited resources and easily depleted.
This notion of having it all presented itself in the late 1960’s and 70’s when millions of women made the transition from wife, mother, and homemaker to working woman, wife, mother, and homemaker. We were told that we could:
“Bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget you’re a man, ‘cause I’m a woman,” By Enjoli Perfume in an incredibly successful 1979 marketing campaign based on a song written by Jerry Leiber and Mike Stoller in 1962.
With lyrics such as,
“I can rub & scrub this old house til it's shinin like a dime. Feed the baby, grease the car, and powder my face at the same time… Lay down at 5, jump up at 6, and start all over again, 'cause I'm a woman, W-O-M-A-N!” songs, advertisements, and television programming encouraged women to take pride in being a “24-hour woman,” an attitude that has persisted for more than 50 years. But this level of responsibility is both self-defeating and self-destructive. For me and millions of others who lived by the Super W-O-M-A-N creed, there are simply not enough hours in the day to honor all those commitments. I finally realized that I had to do something because I could not keep doing everything.
What I did:
• I invited inspiration. (Part One: Invitation to Inspiration)
• I communicated my intentions. (Part Two: The Communication Connection)
• I got organized. (Part Three: Organize to Optimize )
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