Why Spiritually Developed People Struggle With Monogamy - Jayson Gaddis Smart Couple

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Some quotes from video:
let's use this as an example okay
you see your partner's face we're
sensitive to face and tone of voice and
sound anyone sensitive of this stuff
yeah oh yeah you see that look you know
okay it's flat let's say it's
emotionless you already are activated by
it and are mildly triggered you misread
their face as they're upset with you it
turns out they're actually not upset
with you at all but they're having their
own internal upset going on it has
nothing to do with you and if you take
it personally you're either going to
move toward or away depending on history
and how you operate so in a spiritual
view that's like hey let me know when
you're back I'll be over here and let me
know when you're available again go deal
with your shit basically right because
I'm gonna just be with my experience and
we see this obviously as an opportunity
to heal our past work on our trigger etc
so again I'm with that the co-regulation
view is hey I'm here and I care where
you say hey it's not about you honey I'm
just in something I'm not trying to push
you away right now so I offer
reassurance because you know what
because I know what you need and you
know what I need and you know the
phrases I like to hear and I and you
yeah and I know the phrases you like to
hear.
okay so here's audio Shanthi on
relationships. Relationships based on
truth which means a relationship that is
free of dependence and demands is a
relationship centered upon celebration
in other words do not be dependent. okay
this is what spiritual teachers teach
here's another one. Muji's kind of
popular these days
one should not excessively seek partners
or friends one should seek to know and
be oneself mmm-hmm
not so much for me and then we've got
gab Mormont a more of a scientist.

We're mammalian creatures who depend
upon interaction and mutual support.
Steven poor just said connection is a
biological imperative we actually can't
live without connection
he also said on the podcast if an
individual has the ability to Co
regulate with another. Their body's
become more resilient and they can
self-regulate
for longer periods of time before coming
back into co-regulation the only way
kids actually learn how to effectively
self-regulate is through a external
regulator which is the parent and if
it's a solid connection. That's how a kid
learns really strong self-regulation so
what type of leader do you want to be in
your partnership. There's a time and a
place for self-regulating where you do
life alongside each other and you both
go to your separate rooms to work out
your differences I'm with that that's
I've been doing that for years it's
helpful sometimes. So if you want more
freedom and power together you might
want to stop making your nervous system
wrong and instead learn how to navigate.
it's intelligent and sensitive nature as
co-pilots co-creators and co-authors and
I think that will lead you to a bigger
kind of love. Thank
you