The Invisible Pattern That's Destroying Your Relationships

Описание: Why do you keep having the same fights in your relationships — even when you’re trying to communicate well? Most relationship problems aren’t caused by what you said in the last argument… they’re driven by an invisible pattern that’s been running the show for years.

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In this video, we’ll look at the invisible patterns quietly shaping how you react in relationships — and why it can feel like you’re stuck in the same arguments on repeat.
Using a real (and slightly ridiculous) argument my wife and I had over a grocery receipt and some books, I’ll walk you through:
• Why “You’re not listening!” moments keep happening — even when you repeat back what you heard

• The difference between behaviour-level problems and what’s really going on underneath

• How fear, motivation, and wiring shape your reactions — and theirs

• How this same pattern shows up for executives, athletes, creatives, parents, and students

• How the Enneagram gives language to what’s driving you below the surface
Then we’ll walk through the 9 core Enneagram patterns in relationships so you can:
• Recognize the pattern that’s been quietly running in the background

• See why certain people or situations trigger you more than others

• Respond with more clarity, compassion, and healthier boundaries — instead of reacting on autopilot
If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this keep happening?” — or felt like you’re sabotaging your own relationships without meaning to — this video will help you understand the invisible pattern behind it, and how to begin breaking it.
This is a shame-free, judgment-free space. No sermons. Just honest tools to help you have healthier relationships with yourself and the people you care about.
#relationships #Enneagram #relationshippatterns #emotionalhealth


00:00-00:58 Why Your Relationships Keep Failing (The Real Reason)
00:59-01:12 Behaviour vs. Interpretation — Where the Real Damage Happens
01:13-02:37 Why People Who Used to Be Easy Now Drive You Crazy
02:38-04:30 The Book Receipt Fight (A Real Marriage Example)
04:31-04:52 Blind Spots: What We Think We’re Hiding Is Obvious
04:53-05:34 The Iceberg Model: What’s Really Driving Your Reactions
05:35- 06:07 How the Same Pattern Shows Up for Executives, Athletes, Celebrities, and Students
06:08-08:48 How to See What’s Under the Surface (The Enneagram Explained)
08:49-09:48 Enneagram Type 1 in Relationships (Strict Perfectionist)
09:49-10:44 Enneagram Type 2 in Relationships (Considerate Helper)
10:45-11:42 Enneagram Type 3 in Relationships (Competitive Achiever)
11:43-12:33 Enneagram Type 4 in Relationships (Intense Creative)
12:34-13:25 Enneagram Type 5 in Relationships (Quiet Specialist)
13:26-14:16 Enneagram Type 6 in Relationships (Loyal Skeptic)
14:17-15:05 Enneagram Type 7 in Relationships (Enthusiastic Visionary)
15:06-15:53 Enneagram Type 8 in Relationships (Active Controller)
15:54-16:41 Enneagram Type 9 in Relationships (Adaptive Peacemaker)
16:42-18:01 How to Use the Enneagram Like a GPS (Not a Box)
18:02-19:41 The 3 Enneagram Triads in Relationships (Gut, Heart, Head)
19:42-20:05 Why Knowing Your Pattern Changes Your Relationships
20:06-21:14 How the Enneagram Changed Our Marriage (Real Story)
21:15-21:50 What Actually Changes When You Understand Your Pattern
21:51-22:47 What Type Am I? (Free Relationship Clarity Guide)


#Relationships
#Enneagram
#SelfAwareness
#CommunicationSkills
#PersonalGrowth
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