She Couldn’t Feel Love Unless She Was Performing | Adam Lane Smith

Описание: What happens when attachment makes love something you have to earn? Adam and Annie uncover how childhood trauma and disorganized attachment make people perform for love instead of feeling safe being real.

TOPICS COVERED:

👉 The hidden pain of growing up unseen and emotionally neglected
👉 How childhood trauma leads to disorganized attachment
👉 The difference between loud and quiet disorganized attachment
👉 Why many people equate love with performance and compliance
👉 The psychological cost of people-pleasing and self-abandonment
👉 Why traditional therapy sometimes misses attachment wounds
👉 How coaching and brain rewiring can help restore authentic love

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Chapters:
00:00 Opening Up: 20 Years in Therapy
00:58 Introducing Annie & Attachment Challenges
03:28 Relationship History & Patterns
10:13 Attachment Styles & Disorganized Explained
13:10 Childhood, Freezing, and Performance
17:46 Friendships, People Pleasing, and Self-Identity
26:04 Therapy vs. Coaching: What Actually Helped?
33:02 Quiet Disorganized Behaviors & Social Skills
39:06 The Four Levels of Safety & Peace in Relationships
49:54 Feminine Identity, Independence, and Media Influence
01:02:00 Communication Homework & Building Trust
01:10:45 Desire, Safety, and Emotional Connection
01:17:59 Redefining Intimacy and Setting Relationship Standards
01:23:00 Final Thoughts, Where to Find Annie & Closing

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