Episode 12: Reclaim Your Shame

Описание: Episode 12: Many of us have been chased away from shame, because it seems to cause nothing but pain. However, shame itself is a crucial social emotion that helps you become an upright and empathic person who cares about others and has a strong sense of ethics.

The key to working with shame is to understand the difference between shame that helps you maintain your morals and ethics, and shame-blame that is thrown onto you by others. The blaming form of shame is actually, and simply, abuse.

Reclaiming your own true and healing shame is crucial in a time when people are flinging shame-blame everywhere. In this episode, we begin to observe how people's tragic avoidance of shame, and their lust for throwing shame-blame at others, is damaging our capacity to learn, grow, connect, evolve, and heal.

Your own chosen shame forms the center of your ethical core. It's essential.

And a key to working well with shame is to understand the difference between shame and abuse.

Books and practices mentioned in this episode:

The Language of Emotions by Karla McLaren: https://karlamclaren.com/the-language...

The Burning Contracts practice for shame: https://karlamclaren.com/reworking-a-...

Strangers in Their Own Land by Arlie Russell Hochschild: https://bookshop.org/p/books/stranger...

Stolen Pride by Arlie Russell Hochschild: https://bookshop.org/p/books/stolen-p...

Mistakes Were Made (but not by me) by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson: https://bookshop.org/p/books/mistakes...