Applying criminal interrogation tactical strategy to divorce negotiation. (Seriously. 😇)

Описание: “I don’t negotiate with terrorists.” (Have you ever said this?)

(Dramatic much?) (Also, I love you.)

I promise you, your divorce case is not that black-and-white. (I know it can feel that way, but it’s not.)

So let’s get nuanced.

As a former cop, investigator, interrogator, and divorced mom - here’s the truth - mediation and negotiation with a narcissistic ex during divorce or a custody battle is a lot like a detective interrogating a suspect. The key is strategy, not emotion.

Just like an interrogator studies a suspect’s psychological profile before asking a single question, you need to understand your ex’s psychology (and yes - their astrological profile) and then build your game plan around that.

Ask yourself: When have they actually listened to me? If he’s a Leo, maybe it was when you were praising him—so you lead with strategic praise, not because you’re manipulating him, but because you’re using what works to protect yourself and your kids.

This isn’t about being fake. It’s about intelligent, survival-level planning: your objective is safety and well-being for you, your children, and yes, even your ex, because a more stable co-parent benefits everyone.

And if you genuinely aim for them to do well and they choose to self-destruct anyway, that’s their free will and their lesson—but you’ll know you played the game wisely.

Spoiler alert: don’t have to play bad cop if you don’t have the leverage. When you can’t be 100% authoritative without it backfiring, you double down on good cop: rapport, acknowledgment, and letting their behavior speak louder than your anger.

If you’re in the middle of a high-conflict divorce or custody battle with a narcissist and you’re ready to start thinking like an interrogator instead of a victim, this video is for you.

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