The Fear of Abandonment That Destroys Your Relationships || DR GABOR MATÉ ||

Описание: The fear of abandonment rarely calls itself by name. It shows up as overthinking, jealousy, panic when they pull away, or pretending you don’t care at all. Underneath is one question your nervous system keeps asking: Are you going to leave me?

This cinematic long‑form narration explores the fear of abandonment through trauma, attachment, the nervous system, and the mind–body connection — deeply inspired by the clinical insights of Dr. Gabor Maté.

If you cling, over‑function, or shut down in relationships… if you chase reassurance or avoid intimacy altogether… this is not proof that you are “broken.” It is evidence of how your body and brain adapted to a lack of safe, reliable love.

In this talk, we explore:
• How early attachment and childhood stress wire the nervous system to expect abandonment
• Why people‑pleasing, clinging, and emotional withdrawal are intelligent survival adaptations
• How the amygdala and stress hormones keep you on constant alert for being left
• The link between chronic relational stress, inflammation, and illness (psychoneuroimmunology)
• How emotional suppression and self‑abandonment can contribute to autoimmune issues and chronic fatigue
• Addiction, compulsive behaviors, and over‑working as ways to soothe the terror of being alone
• The role of modern culture — ghosting, instability, “don’t be needy” — in amplifying attachment wounds
• Compassion, grief, and reconnection as biological forces of healing
• Responsibility without blame: honoring your history while choosing different patterns now

Core themes woven through this narration:
• Trauma as adaptation, not pathology
• Early childhood attachment, identity formation, and nervous system imprinting
• Fear of abandonment as a body memory, not a personal defect
• The cost of self‑betrayal to “keep” love
• The courage to feel grief for what you didn’t get
• Learning to stay on your own side, even when others leave

This is for you if:
• You panic when relationships feel uncertain or distant
• You alternate between clinging and pushing people away
• You’ve been told you’re “too much,” “too emotional,” or have “trust issues”
• You’re interested in trauma‑informed perspectives, Dr. Gabor Maté’s work, and nervous‑system‑based healing

You are not weak for fearing abandonment. Your body learned that being left was dangerous. Healing is not about becoming less sensitive, but about becoming less alone inside your sensitivity — and learning that you no longer have to abandon yourself to keep others close.

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