🔴The Narcissist Thought They Won, But Being the One Who Discards Hurts Them More

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I understand that many of you have been pushed to the very limits by the Narcissists in your lives. You have been driven to the brink. On numerous occasions, you may have attempted to distance yourself, perhaps even packing your bags to leave. Despite these attempts, you might have extended further chances or allowed them back into your life, leading to a recurring cycle of entanglement. However, I want to assure you of this: being discarded by a Narcissist actually causes them more struggle and suffering than you initiating the separation. They experience greater distress because, throughout the relationship, they develop a belief in their enduring influence over you, assuming you will always desire their return.
To truly grasp this, we first have to understand what you represent to the Narcissist. We use the term "Supply," but it’s crucial to understand this isn't just about compliments or attention. You, especially if you are an empathic or genuine person, represent a high-grade, stable source of their entire self-worth. You are their emotional and psychological lifeblood.
A Narcissist’s personality is built on a fragile, hollow core. They need external validation to feel real. You weren't just a partner; you were a primary source of regulation. Your love, your care, your forgiveness—even your reactions to their abuse—were all "Supply" that affirmed their existence and their power.
Think of it this way: to a Narcissist, people are like batteries. Some people are cheap, disposable batteries that give a quick jolt and then die. That's the short-term thrill, the fleeting validation. But you... you were the high-end, rechargeable, long-lasting power station. You didn't just give them compliments; you gave them stability. You regulated their chaotic inner world. When they felt empty or anxious, your presence, your love, your forgiveness, refilled them. They didn't have to do the work of managing their own emotions; they just plugged into you. This is why losing you isn't just an inconvenience; it's a critical system failure.
Furthermore, through one-to-one sessions with individuals, I have observed that many—though not all—people find it difficult to truly let go of a Narcissist, even after severing direct contact. Many who have confided in me struggle with practices like cord cutting exercises or fully breaking the emotional connection, or a "soul tie." They grapple with the finality of the relationship. Some may still find themselves monitoring the Narcissist's activities on social media. They might cut ties, only to see the Narcissist with a New Supply, and this sight still affects them profoundly, despite their original decision to end the relationship.
It is crucial to recognize that the Narcissist is aware of this dynamic. They know they have subjected you to abuse. When they push you to the brink and you decide to cut them off, it is important to acknowledge that some individuals, being Empaths, Chosen Ones, and genuine souls with compassionate hearts, may experience remorse or guilt. This is the very reason why a Narcissist's act of discarding you is, in essence, self-sabotage. They are, in fact, shooting themselves in the foot. By discarding you, they are severing their own access to that high-grade, reliable supply that your compassionate heart provided.

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