Embracing Perfectionism with Katherine Morgan Schafler | Being Well

Описание: Therapist and author Katherine Morgan Schafler joins me to explore how to harness perfectionism’s strengths without getting captured by its vulnerabilities. We talk about perfectionism’s bad branding, and how our relationship with perfectionism can lead to it being either a superpower or a stumbling block. We discuss the different types of perfectionists, the limitations of defining perfectionism merely as a defense against criticism, and the importance of shifting our language around self-criticism. You’ll learn about the difference between power and control, why self-compassion beats self-punishment, and how to keep perfectionism in check while still reaching your goals.

About our Guest: Katherine is a psychotherapist, former on-site therapist at Google, and author of the recent book The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power.

Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
1:30 Defining perfectionism
6:40 Ideals, identity, and asking yourself how and why you’re striving
13:55 The five types of perfectionists
22:15 Why defining perfectionism as a ‘defense against criticism’ falls short
28:45 Changing our vocabulary around self-criticism
33:40 Why self-punishment doesn’t work
38:00 The difference between power and control
44:25 Splitting vs. scaling, and reaching out for connection
49:05 When perfectionistic tendencies invade our relationships
54:05 The intention that drives real goals, and finding your metric for measuring success
1:07:15 Recap

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