Win Win - The 4th of Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Successful People

Описание: Hi there. Here we are, number four in Stephen Covey’s Habits of Highly Successful People, ‘Win-Win’.

Now, in negotiations win-win means that I’m not going to try to impose something on you that’s only going to benefit me and not benefit you. If I can come up with something that benefits you and benefits me we both win. That’s far more likely to be a successful negotiation, a successful business relationship or even a successful discussion with someone that’s working for you. How does it apply to language learning?

I meet so many people who are constantly negative about themselves when it comes to language learning. They say, I can’t do this, I can’t do that. I’ve been trying to understand, I don’t understand. I keep forgetting my words, when I go to speak I’m tongue-tied. I mean, there’s no end of complaints that people have about their own performance in the language. The fact is that language learning takes time. You are moving from the comfort of your own language where you understand everything and you can express yourself as an adult and now you’re trying to start all over again in another language.

It takes time and everything is very foggy and uncertain for a long time. My own experience is if I look something up a dictionary, I forget the meaning as soon as I close the dictionary. That’s why I don’t use traditional dictionaries. It’s just a waste of time, that’s why we have our system. There’s a lot of frustrating things in language learning, you have to realize that going in. Once you accept that, then all of the time you spend with the language speaking it, listening to it, reading it with however much difficulty and however it didn’t maybe meet your expectations it’s a win because you need to spend that time with the language.

So if you have struggled through a text and you still don’t understand it or you can read it but then when you go to listen to it you don’t understand it, all of these things which can be frustrating, shouldn’t be frustrating. You say to yourself great, I did that. I had enough willpower, staying power to spend that half hour or that hour and I’m going to do the same thing again tomorrow and every time I do that I’m gaining slowly on the language.

I’ve experienced this so many times when it seems that for months and months I just can’t seem to understand it. I can get now to where I can read it, I can actually hear the words, I know where they sort of end and the next word begins, but I still can’t understand it. Yet, eventually I do. So whatever time you spend with the language is a win. It’s a win-win situation.

Thanks for listening, bye for now.