Trauma Bonding, Therapy Speak, and More with Dr. Perpetua Neo - Terri Cole

Описание: I am thrilled to welcome back my pal Dr. Perpetua Neo. She is an expert in high-functioning, overachieving women, as well as trauma bonding and abusive relationships.

In this conversation, we talk about the realities of trauma bonds, the misunderstandings around therapy speak since certain terms have gone mainstream, clarifying those terms, and the pitfalls Dr. P sees in her high-functioning clients and what they can do to regulate their brains.

We end with a discussion about respecting our hormones, my experience with perimenopause and menopause, what Dr. P learned about her own cycle, fasting, and more.

Time Stamps
0:00 - Quote from Dr. P
0:30 - Intro from Terri
2:45 - Trauma bonding
6:20 - Thoughts on therapy speak
7:43 - Therapeutic explanation of "triggered"
10:03 - The term "gaslighting"
14:11 - "I'm wired that way" excuse
15:30 - Misusing "boundaries" to manipulate
18:00 - Pitfalls of high-functioning women
19:50 - The big 3 things we tolerate
21:44 - Regulating your brain
25:15 - Saying "no"
26:38 - Hormone discussion (sleep, fasting, menopause)

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Resources Mentioned
Dysthymia: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/article...
Movie: "Gaslight"
Movie: "Rashomon"
Dr. Mindy Pelz's book, Fast Like a Girl
Dr. Mindy Pelz's show is The Resetter Podcast

About Dr. Perpetua Neo
Dr Perpetua Neo (DClinPsy, UCL; MPhil, Cambridge) coaches Type A++ overachievers with demanding lives and their organizations, to be in control of their heads, time, and relationships, so they perform and lead at their best always. And, they sleep peacefully.

Dr. P tailors strategies to her clients’ personalities and lifestyles, building lasting systems and structures, so they achieve multiple personal and professional goals. She specializes in The Big 3 we mistakenly tolerate—high-functioning anxiety, toxic relationships, and panic attacks—blending cutting-edge neuroscience, psychology, and ancient wisdom. She supports organizations to build accountable, sustainable high-performance cultures, and to tap into already-existing diversity including neurodiversity.

Website: https://perpetuaneo.com
Articles on MindBodyGreen: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/wc/dr-p...
Workbook: https://www.simonandschuster.co.uk/bo...

About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/

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