Why You Keep Quitting Right Before You Succeed (The 5 Stages) | Alex Hormozi

Описание: Most people spend years jumping from thing to thing without realizing they quit at the exact same point every time—Stage 3, the valley of despair. This video explains the five emotional stages everyone goes through when attempting anything difficult, and why understanding this pattern changes everything.

THE FIVE STAGES:
Stage 1: Uninformed Optimism - You hear about something exciting and think, "That sounds amazing." You're optimistic because you don't know what you don't know yet.

Stage 2: Informed Pessimism - You actually start and reality hits. It's harder than expected. The gap between where you are and where you want to be becomes painfully clear.

Stage 3: The Valley of Despair - You've invested time and energy but nothing's working. You question everything. This is where most people quit and jump to something new, restarting the cycle.

Stage 4: Informed Optimism - If you stay through Stage 3, you finally understand how it works. It's not as magical as you thought, but you get it now. The rules make sense.

Stage 5: Achievement - You break through. Not because you're special, but because you stayed when it hurt.

THE DEEPER INSIGHTS:
People fail not because there's some secret they're missing. They fail because it's an obvious list nobody does. You already know you should eat less and move more to lose weight. The question isn't what to do—it's why you aren't doing it.

Fear lives in the vague, not the specific. We catastrophize everything to death. But when you make it specific—"I'll post this, some will like it, some won't, then I'll have dinner and go to bed"—fear evaporates. Fear is a mile wide and an inch deep.

Besides death, all failure is psychological. You're drawing arbitrary lines and calling it failure. If you don't die, you can keep going. And if you can keep going, you can stand it.

WHAT THIS MEANS FOR YOU:
It takes about 20 hours to become proficient at anything. The problem? People take 10 years to get those first 20 hours because they keep starting over.

Learning means same condition, new behavior. If your day looks identical tomorrow, you learned nothing—this was just entertainment. But if you take one action based on this, you've proven intelligence.

Commitment isn't adding more things. It's eliminating alternatives. When someone tells you about their new success, you choose: jump to Stage 1 with them, or stay two months into your current suffering.

The five stages aren't theory—they're the map. Stage 3 is where you are. Will you stay long enough to reach Stage 5?

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS:
0:00 - The Pattern That Keeps You Stuck And The Five Stages
1:21 - Why Stage 3 Is Where You Should Stay while Everyone Else Quits
2:08 - Besides Death, All Failure Is Psychological
2:24 - What Learning Actually Means
3:16 - The Fear That Controls You
3:52 - Why Commitment Means Eliminating Alternatives

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