How to stop saying “yes” when you mean “no”, with Natalie Lue

Описание: Who would you choose to be if you weren’t shit scared about what other people might think about you? Writer and speaker Natalie Lue has noticed that people pleasing is often a response to anxiety.

In this chat with Fearne, Natalie explains how when you desperately people please, you’re putting your self-esteem on the chopping block. In becoming disassociated from your “no” you become disassociated from your needs, desires, opinions, and limits.

Natalie talks through the five ways people pleasing might show up in your life, including over-achieving at school and work, and fixing other people’s problems. Plus, a word of warning that pushing past your mental and emotional limits can lead to physical health issues.

Natalie’s book, The Joy of Saying No, is out now.

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📍 Chapters:

00:00 - 05:50 — The Cost of People-Pleasing & Learning to Say No
05:51 - 11:40 — Childhood Conditioning & Losing Ourselves
11:41 - 17:30 — Illness, Self-Hatred & Starting to Heal
17:31 - 24:10 — Why We Say Yes When We Mean No
24:11 - 29:20 — The Five People-Pleasing Styles
29:21 - 35:00 — The Avoider & Performing Niceness at Work
35:01 - 40:30 — The Saver, the Martyr & Needing to Be Needed
40:31 - 45:10 — The Perfectionist...
45:11 - 51:00 — Redefining Self-Worth
51:01 - 58:15 — How to Say No & Honour Yourself Without Guilt

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