JAPA MARRIAGE: Is My Marriage Over? Nigerian Husband Cries Out

Описание: The term "Japa Marriage" refers to a social phenomenon in Nigeria where the emigration of Nigerians (known as the "Japa" wave) is reportedly causing significant marital crises and divorces.
There isn't one specific "Nigerian husband" whose story is the sole focus; instead, multiple publicized incidents contribute to this narrative, including a recent case involving a man in Canada.
The "Japa Marriage" Phenomenon
"Japa," a Yoruba word meaning "to run, escape, or emigrate," is widely used to describe the large number of Nigerians moving abroad for better opportunities.
The "Japa Marriage" issue highlights the specific difficulties couples face when one or both partners relocate:
Shifting Gender Roles: In Western countries, traditional Nigerian gender roles can change due to new financial and social situations, often leading to different expectations for men regarding household tasks and increased financial independence for women.
Financial Strain and Expectations: Moving is costly, and financial disagreements can occur, especially if the spouse in Nigeria feels remittances are insufficient or the spouse abroad feels overwhelmed.
Lack of Support Systems: The absence of extended family, domestic help, and community support in a new country adds stress on couples to handle all responsibilities themselves.
Infidelity and Emotional Distance: Long periods of separation and cultural adjustments can result in communication problems, emotional disconnect, and a higher risk of infidelity.
Legal Empowerment of Women: Wives who move may use the local legal system for issues like domestic disputes or divorce, which some Nigerian men were not used to in Nigeria.
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