Simon Senik | Commit to Consistency | Become a Real Leader

Описание: How do you become a real leader?
How do you make sure your team love their job, not just 'like' coming to work?


"Do you love your wife?"

Yes

Right, prove it, like what's the metric, give me the number that helps me know, right? Because when you met her you didn't love her, right? Now you love her, right? Tell me the day the love happened? It's an impossible question, right? but it's not that it doesn't exist. It's that it's much easier to prove overtime. Right? So all, leadership is the same thing. It's about transitions. So if you were to if you were to go to the gym, right so like exercise right? If you go to the gym and you work out and you come back and you look in the mirror, you will see nothing and if you go to the gym the next day and you come back and you look in the mirror, you will see nothing, right?

So clearly there's no results can't be measured. It must not be effective. So we quit right or if you fundamentally believe that this is the right course of action and you stick with it like in a relationship. I bought her flowers and I wished her a happy birthday and she doesn't love me, clearly, I will give up, you know, that's not what happens. If you if you believe there's something there you commit yourself to act an act of service. You can make yourself to the regime the exercise. You can screw it up. You can eat chocolate cake one day you can skip a skip a day or two, you know you it allows for that. But if you stick with it consistently, I'm not exactly sure what day but I know you'll start getting into shape. I know it and the same with the relationship it's not about the events. It's not about intensity. It's about consistency, right you go to the dentist twice a year your teeth will fall out. You have to brush your teeth every day for two minutes. What is brushing your teeth twice a day for two minutes do, nothing.
Unless you do it every day twice a day for two minutes, right? It's the consistency going to the gym for nine hours does not get you into shape working out every day for 20 minutes gets you into shape. So, the problem is we treat leadership with intensity. We have a two-day off-site. We invite a bunch of speakers. We give everybody certificate, You’re a Leader! right?

Those things are like going to the dentist. They're very important the good for reminding us or getting us back on track learning new lessons, but it's the daily practice of all the monotonous little boring things like brushing your teeth that matter the most. She didn't fall in love with you because you remembered her birthday and bought her flowers on Valentine's Day. She fell in love with you because when you woke up in the morning, you said good morning to her before you checked your phone. She fell in love with you because when you went to the fridge to get yourself a drink you got her one without even asking. She fell in love with you because when you had an amazing day at work and she came home, and she had a terrible day at work. You didn't say yeah, but let me tell you about my day, you sat and listened to her awful day and you didn't say a thing about your amazing day. This is why she fell in love with you. I can't tell you exactly what day and it was no particular thing you did. It was the accumulation of all of those little things that she woke up on days and it's as if she pressed a button she goes I love him.

Right, leadership is exactly the same. There's no event. There's nothing I can tell you. You have to do that people will trust you. It just doesn't work that way. It's an accumulation of lots and lots of little things that anyone by themselves is innocuous and useless, literally pointless by themselves. People will look at little things that are good leadership practices and say, that won't work, and you're absolutely right. But if you do it consistently and you do it in combination with lots of other little things, like saying good morning to someone that looking in the eye. My friend George was a three-star general in the Marine Corps. He says his test for leadership and I love this. He goes his test of a really good leader, if you ask somebody how their day is going, you actually care about the answer, and the number of times were walking to a meeting, were rushing, we go, "How are you", "not good", I gotta get to you later. I'm late for a meeting. If you ask the question you were standing there and you're listening to the answer. It's those little innocuous things that you do over and over and over and over that people will say, "I love my job"