love bombing vs. real love: what's actually happening

Описание: Have you ever met someone who seemed perfect — texting constantly, showering you with compliments, planning your future together within weeks?

It felt magical. Intense. Like something out of a movie.

But then it changed.

In this video, I share my personal experience with love bombing — why I used to fall for it, how it feels intoxicating in the beginning, and what I learned the hard way about the three phases: idealization, devaluation, and discard.

We’ll talk about:

What love bombing really is

Why it feels like true love at first

The dopamine and attachment science behind it

The red flags to watch for

The 90-day rule

How to protect yourself without closing your heart

If you’re dating after 40, healing from divorce, or trying to rebuild trust in yourself, this conversation matters.

Real love develops slowly. It respects boundaries. It doesn’t rush you into fantasy.

You deserve something steady.

Let me know in the comments — have you ever experienced love bombing?

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PSA: Even though I am a licensed therapist, my videos are for educational purposed ONLY. The video is not a replacement for individual psychotherapy. I always recommend seeking out your own individual care if accessible.
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00:00 My Confession: Why Love Bombing Used to Feel Like “True Love”
00:53 What Love Bombing Really Is (and Where the Term Came From)
01:31 How It Shows Up: Constant Texting, Gifts, and Fast-Forwarding Intimacy
02:23 The Fantasy Trap: Soulmate Talk, Pedestals, and Public Relationship Hype
03:49 Why It’s So Addictive: Dopamine Highs and the Crash When It Stops
04:56 What’s Going On With the Love Bomber: Control, Ego, and Low Empathy
05:38 The 3-Phase Cycle: Idealize → Devalue → Discard (Then Repeat)
07:28 How to Respond: Trust Your Gut and Slow Everything Down
08:50 Set Boundaries & Watch Their Reactions (Availability, Jealousy, Guilt)
11:00 Real Love vs. Love Bombing + Healing, Therapy, and Moving Forward