The Cost of Masking: Reuben Schwartz on Autism and Living Authentically – Focus & Chill Ep 110

Описание: Welcome to episode 110! We’re thrilled to be joined by Reuben Schwartz

In this episode, startup consultant Reuben Schwartz shares his late autism diagnosis journey, revealing how it reshaped his approach to parenting, burnout, and productivity. From building and selling a startup to navigating fatherhood and sensory overload, Reuben gets real about what it means to thrive as a neurodivergent professional in a world built for neurotypicals. Perfect for anyone exploring ADHD, autism, neurodiversity, and sustainable productivity.


🕒 Timeline
00:00:00 – Welcome to Focus and Chill Podcast
00:01:00 – Meet Reuben Schwartz: 13 Careers and an Autism Diagnosis
00:02:30 – Understanding the Late Autism Diagnosis
00:04:00 – Moral Perfectionism and the Search for “The Right Way”
00:06:00 – Love, Spreadsheets, and the Mathematics of Marriage
00:07:00 – Parenting as an Autistic Adult
00:09:30 – Burnout, Overwhelm, and Honesty in Family Life
00:10:54 – The Myth of “Having It All Together”
00:11:30 – Lessons from 13 Careers and a Startup Exit
00:14:30 – Autism vs Neurotypical Thinking: Two Populations, Not a Spectrum
00:16:00 – Relationships, Emotional Gaps, and Late Realizations
00:17:30 – Mimicking Normalcy and the “Normal Horse vs Zebra” Analogy
00:19:00 – The Hard Truth About Parenting Burnout
00:22:00 – Navigating Emotional Disconnect and Empathy
00:24:00 – Reuben’s Disinformation Project and Social Impact Goals
00:28:00 – Why Misinformation Is a Wicked Problem
00:29:30 – Productivity Systems and Environmental Control
00:31:00 – Managing Focus and the Cost of Hyperfixation
00:33:00 – Email, Boundaries, and the “Big Rocks” Rule
00:34:00 – Routines, Environment, and Autism-Friendly Planning
00:35:00 – Music and Sensory Design for Deep Work
00:36:00 – Productivity Advice That Doesn’t Work
00:37:00 – Closing Thoughts: Authentic Work and Self-Acceptance


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