Evidence of Triangulation: The Police Intimidation Tactic in High-Conflict Custody.

Описание: The Incident: On September 23, 2020, during a standard custody exchange of my infant son, my ex-partner utilized a tactic known as Triangulation. She brought her cousin, Ray Davis—an active duty police officer—to the exchange for the explicit purpose of intimidation.

The Tactic: Listen closely. Ray attempts to establish dominance immediately ("GO!") while my ex-partner complies silently. He then attempts to enforce boundaries regarding his mother ("Aunt D"), triangulating a third-party family conflict into a parenting exchange. When I refuse to be intimidated, he resorts to vague threats ("The bullshit... All that stuff") and gaslighting ("You know exactly what I'm talking about").

Key Transcript Moments:

0:00 - The "Friendly" Mask: The exchange begins with standard, overly polite pleasantries from the mother.

0:55 - The Ambush: Ray steps in. "Hey man. GO!" (Commanding the mother to leave so he can isolate the father).

1:18 - The Threat: "If there's any communication going on... need to cease."

1:45 - The Boundary: I assert my rights. "Actually, you don't get to tell me what to do, Ray."

2:38 - The Gaslight: Ray accuses me of "threatening" but refuses to cite a single specific instance when pressed. "You know exactly what the fvck I'm talkin about." (I didn't. Because it didn't happen).

Why this matters: This recording demonstrates how abusers use Proxy Recruitment. They manipulate third parties (especially those with authority) to do their dirty work, allowing them to keep their hands clean while the target is terrorized.

Forensic Note: Listen to my voice. This recording was made before the severe onset of Complex PTSD that has since affected my speech. This is the sound of a father standing his ground against intimidation.

Read the Full Story: This incident is a companion piece to my essay, From The Journals of Devaluation. Read it here: https://doi.org/10.5281/zenodo.18079314

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