The Marriage Tool No One Talks About: How to Fight Without Destroying Everything

Описание: I sit down again with Jules and Tyson Morlet from Wed Into War to unpack one of the most practical, disruptive, and life-changing frameworks for marriage I’ve ever encountered. We talk about conflict, long-term wounds, addiction, trust, and why trying to “fix it all right now” is often what’s destroying marriages in the first place. If you’ve ever felt like the same argument keeps resurfacing no matter how hard you try, this conversation will put language to what you’re experiencing.

We dive deep into what Tyson and Jules call the “Compost Pile”—a way of containing big, long-term conflicts so they don’t infect every moment of your life. Some issues are ten-year issues. Abuse recovery, addiction recovery, betrayal, childhood trauma—these don’t get solved over coffee on a Wednesday morning. When couples try to process them everywhere and all the time, they end up poisoning intimacy, family life, and connection. But when you learn where to put those conflicts, they can actually become fertilizer instead of rot.

This episode is also about finding a third way when it feels like your only options are staying stuck or getting divorced. We talk honestly about porn, money, control, fear, comparison, and the lie that things will somehow be easier with someone else. If you’re listening alone and wondering what to do when your spouse isn’t ready, we address that too. This is about radical ownership, intentional change, and building a marriage that actually grows instead of quietly eroding. If you want different, not just “better,” this conversation is for you.

Connect with Tyson and Jules: https://www.wedintowar.com/

Chapters:
00:00 – Why Conflict Keeps Repeating in Marriage
05:00 – The Compost Pile Explained: Where Big Issues Belong
09:30 – Sanctuary vs. Compost: Two Kinds of Conflict
13:00 – “I Don’t Want This Anymore”: Finding the Third Way
17:10 – Why Divorce Doesn’t Remove the Conflict
21:30 – Porn, Comparison, and False Intimacy
25:50 – What to Do When Your Spouse Isn’t On Board
29:40 – The Real Issue Is Never the iPhone
34:30 – Trust, Money, and Breaking Old Identities
40:10 – Marriage as Transformation, Not Arrival

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