Understand your window of tolerance

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complete transcript: Understanding your window of tolerance

The Holistic psychologist: People with complex trauma have a very small window of tolerance. The window of tolerance is how much stress or stimulation you can tolerate in your day to day life.

Someone with a wide window of tolerance will spend the majority of their day in a regulated state. Where they feel calm and at ease, and they trust the world around them. They get dysregulated during stress or conflict, but they're also able to return back to that regulated state after their emotions pass.

Someone with a small window of tolerance will regularly go into hyperarousal or hypo arousal. Hyper arousal is when you go into fight or flight and you have an angry irritable or an emotionally reactive response. Hypo arousal is when you're in freeze and you're numb, checked out or you have a monotone response.

People with complex trauma are really just stuck in hyper arousal or hypo arousal throughout the entire day. And sometimes they go back and forth between the two, which can really look like what we call mood swings.

A sign you might be stuck in hyper arousal or hypo arousal if you spend the majority of your time looking for something external to soothe you. It can be food, substances, social media, or really anything that helps us feel like we're in our window of tolerance, even though we're not.

This is why it's so important for people with complex trauma to do something that's called widening the window. We actually have the power to expand our window of tolerance through intentional practices.