New Year’s resolutions don’t work for idealists

Описание: New Year’s resolutions don’t work for idealists.

This journal entry is for every idealist and introvert who feels the intense New Year's resolution pressure but knows that changing the calendar doesn't automatically give us a "New Us." We're tackling the great "Fresh Start" lie and the painful sense of incongruence between external goals and our internal timing.

Dear soul, if you are acutely aware of the gap between the ideal world and what is actually real, you are not alone.

Healing, growth and personal transformation all happen on their own time. It does not happen with external pressure and deadlines. Our internal timing rarely aligns with the external expectations of society.

So, let’s shift our focus. The only resolution that truly matters is to continue to honor our own present state of being and continue to grow in self-love, self-trust and self-compassion.

Instead of external goals, we embrace internal goals and focus on the smallest steps:

Rest: A "goal of rest" to counter the intense psychic energy around us.

Patience: Nurture the seeds we've planted, trusting they will bloom in their own time—not when the external world says it's January.

Tiny Steps: Tend our inner garden by asking what’s one thing we can do today to love ourselves.

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If you want to put this self-compassion into practice, I recommend watching: Setting boundaries is an act of love, not selfishness (   • Setting boundaries is an act of love, not ...  ), where you’ll learn why protecting your energy is an act of profound self-love.

Sending you many blessings.

Xoxo,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 The New Year "Fresh Start" Lie for Idealists
0:40 The Painful Sense of Incongruence (New Year, Same You)
2:19 Let's Do What Idealists Do Best
2:58 Healing & Growth Happens on Its Own Time
4:49 The Only Resolution That Matters: Honoring Your Present State
5:29 Internal Goals: Why You Need a "Goal of Rest" Now
7:00 Patience: Nurture the Seeds You've Planted
8:32 Focusing on the Smallest Step to Tend Your Garden
9:45 You Are Not Alone (Final Gentle Cheerleading)

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🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

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