Escaping the Narcissist – Let Me Reach

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“It’s so hard for people who share children with narcissistic individuals because sadly, most people don’t understand what they need to do in a shared-custody situation”.  Kim Saeed, a No Contact Coach, shares her story of suffering and survival from emotional abuse at the hands of a narcissist husband.

 


Why is No Contact Important When You're Involved With a Narcissist?
Kim Saeed is a No Contact Coach, an author, and an expert who has been helping survivors of narcissistic and emotional abuse. Her articles and blogs generally emphasize having no contact with the narcissist.

From her personal life experience, Kim has been able to point out the reason why one should hit the red button if one’s partner is a narcissist. She lived with a narcissist for 8 years, and even had a son with him, but she couldn’t let go of her abuser easily because she was emotionally attached. Every rational human being feels they shouldn’t give up hope, but it is wiser to realize that it’s an illusion with these individuals.

“It took me a lot of time to detach from my ex. I was just too emotional and that was how I broke down,” says Kim.

Emotional trauma is a particularly insidious form of social abuse. It’s overwhelming to see that a lot of people don’t realize that emotional trauma is the vehicle for injury. It can shrink one’s hippocampus which is in charge of our short and long term memory. The hippocampus is involved in the formation of new memories and is also associated with learning and emotions. Narcissistic abuse is an insidious form of emotional abuse. This is where the no-contact rule applies. No contact is completely blocking a person out of your life. No contact helped Kim to recover from narcissistic abuse from her ex.

Through writing about her own story, Kim inspired many folks who previously refused to speak out on these issues. Writing about it also birthed her phoenix process.

As humans we tend to forget those traumatic experiences, so it's important to write them down as they happen, this will help you to see clearly and you can look back and say yes this happened on that day.
When she started blogging about her situation, she was motivated by online comments eventually making her feel there are other people who have similar or even more horrible experiences.
When you start writing, don't be surprised if it brings up some repressed memories and repressed emotions because these will help to work out the regrets of the past.
Her recently published book - How To Do You No Contact Like A Boss! educates people about No Contact as well as Modified Contact for those who have children with their ex and who are on the verge of leaving.
Sandra Brown who wrote Woman Who Love Psychopaths. She states that psychopathy is actually our number one health risk. It cost ten times more than depression does.
Gas lighting is defined by things that the narcissist does and says to make you doubt your perception and lose faith in yourself and your ability to make intelligent choices and decisions.

 
How to Know You’re With a Narcissist
Some of the most common symptoms that a person has when they are with a narcissistic person are:

Isolation from friends and family, either because your partner wanted that or over time you just got so embarrassed about it, you wanted to hide the abuse.
It's not that you're crazy but you feel that way from all the blaming and name calling and other narcissist projections. "They want us to believe that we are guilty of the same relationship crimes as they are."
You can diagnose yourself by asking, “Was I like this before I met this person?”