Are You Ask Culture or Guess Culture? This Communication Skill Is Life-Changing

Описание: Discover the life-changing communication skill of understanding Ask vs. Guess Culture. Enhance relationships by mastering direct and indirect communication styles.
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Most people don’t even know about this communication style, but if you did, you could solve a lot of problems in your relationships.
You can learn to improve relationships by learning how to identify whether you are an asker or a guesser. This is a communication style that no one is talking about, but if you learn it, your life can change for the better.
In guess culture style of communication, you try to put out feelers, because you don’t want to make someone uncomfortable by asking directly. You may hint at a request or subtly suggest something, and then only ask directly if you’re pretty sure the answer will be yes. In guess culture you rely on shared cultural norms. For example in Greece, it is rude to leave food on your plate- it signals that you didn’t like it. In China it is rude to clear your plate because it sends the message that there wasn’t enough food offered. The subtleties of the culture allow for people to show respect and consideration for each other, but can lead to confusion for outsiders. Askers may hate this, but the reality is, a huge amount of communication is nonverbal.
This is Ask culture. In some families you grow up with the message “It can’t hurt to ask.” but you might get no for an answer. That’s ok. The messaging to this couple from the ask-culture folks was “Just be direct. If she gets offended, that’s her issue, don’t worry about it”. In ask culture you’re more likely to be clear, straightforward, but also to be perceived as presumptuous or rude. (The woman asking to stay seems to be from ask culture, the husband and wife both seem to be from guess culture)
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00:00 Intro
00:24 The Story
03:05 The Comments
08:38 Which Culture Is Better?
10:28 The Problem

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