E177 | People Pleasing Is Exhausting Here’s Why It’s So Hard to Stop

Описание: People pleasing doesn’t usually feel like a problem at first.
It feels like being helpful, generous, and kind. Being easy to be around. Being the one who keeps everything running smoothly.

But over time, it can lead to anxiety, resentment, burnout, and a loss of self.

In this episode of No Alcohol Needed, Julie Miller, Steve Knapp, Mike Coyne, and Amber Fenner unpack how people pleasing actually works, why so many people don’t recognize it in themselves, and what starts to change when you stop organizing your life around other people’s emotions.

This conversation is especially relatable for people who’ve started questioning their relationship with alcohol, but it’s not limited to that. Anyone who feels responsible for keeping everyone else comfortable will recognize themselves here.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-How people pleasing often starts as a survival skill
-Why it creates anxiety, resentment, and emotional exhaustion
-The connection between people pleasing, perfectionism, and over-apologizing
-Why saying no can feel so threatening
-What changes when you stop living for approval
-How relationships shift when you begin choosing yourself

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We talk about emotional intelligence, self-worth, sobriety, and how to build a life you don’t wish you could escape from.
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00:00 – Why People Pleasing Is So Hard to See in Yourself
02:20 – What People Pleasing Actually Looks Like in Real Life
06:10 – When Being “Nice” Turns Into Burnout and Resentment
10:05 – People Pleasing as a Survival Skill (Where It Starts)
14:20 – Why You Feel Responsible for Everyone Else’s Emotions
18:05 – The Link Between People Pleasing and Perfectionism
22:55 – Over-Apologizing and Avoiding Conflict
27:40 – Why These Patterns Get Louder When You Stop Numbing Them
32:05 – The Fear of Saying No (And Why It Feels So Risky)
36:00 – What Changes When You Stop Living on Approval
41:00 – How Relationships Respond When You Set Boundaries
47:50 – “What If People Are Disappointed?”
56:10 – Learning to Choose Yourself Without Burning Bridges