Why Most People Don’t Ask for What They Want (And How It’s Holding Them Back) | Paul Quinn

Описание: What do you really want—and why is it so hard to ask for it?

In this thought-provoking conversation, Paul Quinn, author of The Big Ask: Unlock the Possibilities in Your Work, Life & Dreams with Courageous Requests, breaks down one of the most overlooked skills in personal and professional growth: the ability to ask clearly, confidently, and courageously.
Paul isn’t a hype coach or a guru. He’s a deeply observant, empathetic communicator who’s spent years studying why people don’t ask for what they want—and what changes when they finally do.

Drawing from:
• 80+ real-life interviews with CEOs, celebrities, students, job seekers, entrepreneurs, and everyday dreamers
• Research-backed insights into human behavior
• His own journey of writing The Big Ask (his biggest request yet)
Paul reveals how invisible rules, fear of rejection, and self-imposed limits quietly sabotage our goals at work, in relationships, and in life.
In this episode, we explore:
🔹 Why most people don’t ask—even when the cost is high
🔹 The hidden “rules” that keep us silent and stuck
🔹 What makes an ask effective (and what guarantees failure)
🔹 Real stories of life-changing requests that worked
🔹 How asking builds confidence, clarity, and momentum
🔹 Practical tips you can use today to make your next ask land
This is not about manipulation or entitlement—it’s about honest communication, self-advocacy, and giving others the chance to say yes.

If you’ve ever:
• Settled for less than you wanted
• Avoided asking for a raise, opportunity, or support
• Talked yourself out of reaching out
• Felt stuck despite working hard
This conversation will challenge you—in the best way.

⏱️ Chapter Breaks
00:00 – Why asking feels so uncomfortable
03:20 – The hidden rules we create about asking
07:10 – The cost of not asking
11:45 – What makes a request powerful vs. awkward
16:30 – Stories from The Big Ask interviews
22:10 – Fear of rejection and how to reframe it
27:40 – How asking builds confidence over time
33:15 – Paul’s biggest personal ask
38:20 – How to make your next ask more likely to succeed
44:00 – Why asking is a life skill, not a personality trait

💬 What’s something you’ve been afraid to ask for?
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