Help! I'm in a parentified relationship! | Sorry, I Missed This

Описание: Romantic partners often support each other, and help each other out with different things. And with ADHD in the relationship, there might be some extra support needed here and there. But what happens when that support crosses the line into parentification, or taking care of your partner like they’re your child? Or the other way around, where your partner is responsible for taking care of you?

Psychologist Lesley Cook (@lesleypsyd) comes onto the podcast to talk about how to notice parentification happening in your relationship, and the resentment that can build when it goes unnoticed.

Related resources
Lesley’s tiktok, @lesleypsyd
  / lesleypsyd  
A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD by Sari Solden, and Michelle Frank
https://www.newharbinger.com/97816840...

Timestamps
00:00 Intro
03:03 What is a parentified relationship?
05:37 When an ADHD partner is the “parent” in the relationship, or takes on too much responsibility
07:33 Are parentified relationships typically gendered?
08:48 Fairness versus equity in relationships
11:44 Weaponized incompetence
14:49 What happens to a relationship when it’s parentified for too long?
17:19 Notice, shift, repair
18:45 What to do when you notice yourself taking on too much responsibility for your partner
21:08 People pleasing, and the need to fix things
22:46 How to ask the right questions to your partner
24:07 Noticing your ADHD at play, and using it as an explanation, not an excuse
28:02 Setting an example as a parent to kids
32:24 Lesley’s parting advice
33:00 Where you can find Lesley and credits

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For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.
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