They Said I Was K*LLING Myself By Leaving | Healing From Cult Abuse

Описание: I gave everything to a faith that controlled my life — and leaving it was the most painful, powerful step toward getting myself back.

In this conversation, Quincy shares his experience as a survivor of spiritual abuse in a high-control religious group. He talks about the manipulation, exploitation of his skills, and the isolation from family and outside support — common cult control tactics that kept members dependent and afraid to leave.

He opens up about the emotional toll of constant pressure, fear, and guilt, and the painful reality many survivors face after leaving: being shamed, discredited, or cut off. As a former leader, Quincy also reveals the hidden burnout, mental strain, and impossible expectations placed on those in authority.

Walking away was devastating — but it was also the beginning of healing. Quincy now encourages others to research, recognize coercive control, and understand that questioning isn’t betrayal — it’s the first step toward reclaiming your identity and freedom after spiritual abuse.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background of Quincy
05:55 The Impact of Leaving and Silent Observations
08:57 Discrediting Narratives and Communication
11:50 The Role of the Church in Personal Lives
14:55 Exploitation of Skills and Time
18:10 Quincy's Journey into the Church
20:55 The Church's Influence on Personal Relationships
23:48 Isolation and Family Dynamics
26:59 The Transition to Salt Lake City
37:39 Journey to Salt Lake City
40:01 Life as a Church Member
43:08 Becoming Pastoral Staff
46:03 The Responsibilities of Pastoral Staff
51:04 The Illusion of Security
54:15 False Sense of Invincibility
59:12 Consequences of Misplaced Faith
01:02:50 The Weight of Leadership and Entitlement
01:10:24 The Breaking Point: Overwork and Exhaustion
01:22:08 The Tipping Point: A Crisis of Faith
01:26:10 Apologies and Reflections on Past Behavior
01:27:01 Financial Dynamics in Church Roles
01:28:49 Burnout and the Decision to Step Down
01:30:08 The Emotional Toll of Leaving Pastoral Staff
01:32:06 The Overseer's Reaction To Quincy Stepping Down
01:36:10 The Weight of Expectations and Relationships
01:40:24 The Power Dynamics in Church Leadership
01:44:11 The Systemic Issues in Church Leadership
01:50:23 Transitioning to Secular Life
01:55:34 The Struggles of Leaving the Church
01:59:05 The Emotional Toll of Worship
02:01:57 The Impact of Leadership on Personal Identity
02:04:56 Confidentiality and Trust in Leadership
02:09:08 The Mass Exodus: A Turning Point
02:12:00 Research and Self-Discovery
02:18:13 The Importance of Hearing Both Sides
02:26:02 A Message to Current Members

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