Episode 14 | The Guilt That Follows Every Caregiver

Описание: There's a particular kind of guilt that follows caregivers around. It doesn't announce itself loudly, but hums in the background, showing up every time you sit down for five minutes because you think you should be doing more. Most caregivers aren't struggling because they don't care enough, but rather they're struggling because they care so much in a situation that gives them very little room to be human.

I get honest about the reality of caring for my 91-year-old mom while building my business, and the pressure I put on myself to be present all the time. I break down the different types of caregiver guilt, from resentment guilt to fantasy guilt, and why pretending you're okay has a cost that shows up as numbness, sideways anger, and losing who you are outside of what you provide.

This is about becoming a more honest human inside an impossible role, where gratitude and grief can exist in the same body, and not about becoming a better caregiver.

Key Timestamps:
[00:00:00] Introduction.
[00:01:57] My caregiving reality
[00:03:44] The ‘I’m fine’ mask
[00:05:14] Pause & name it
[00:07:00] Faces of guilt
[00:10:00] Fantasy guilt & life seasons
[00:13:21] Minimizing pain costs
[00:15:13] Gratitude & grief coexist
[00:17:12] Stop pretending limitless

Memorable Quotes:
"There's nothing broken about you. Most caregivers aren't struggling because they don't care enough or because they don't love enough. They're struggling because they care so much and in a situation that gives them very little room to be human." – Susan Houston

"Gratitude and grief can exist in the same body. Anyone who says otherwise hasn't lived this." – Susan Houston


Join our Weekly Wisdom on my website: https://www.thesusanhouston.com/

Connect with Susan Houston:
Instagram:   / susanhouston.kienitz  
Facebook:   / susanhouston.kienitz  

Produced by Evolved Podcasting:https://www.evolvedpodcasting.com