"I Thought I Didn’t Need Anyone — Until It Ruined My Relationship"

Описание: If someone’s ever told you, “You’re too independent for a relationship”—this video is for you.
Clinical psychotherapist Jourdan Travers breaks down the psychology of hyper-independence, where it really comes from, and why it’s not a flaw—it's a survival strategy.
You’ll learn why some people find it hard to ask for help, fear emotional intimacy, and push away love—even when they deeply want it.

Timestamps:
00:00 – The judgment of being “too independent”
01:25– What the Minnesota Longitudinal Study taught us
03:20– A real client story: independence as identity
04:47– It’s not pride—it’s protection
05:04 – Attachment Diathesis-Stress Process Model
05:32– How avoidant people disconnect under stress
06:24– What you don’t see in hyper-independence
07:30– What partners need to understand
08:14– How to show the story behind your self-sufficiency
08:35– Final thoughts and next steps

🧪 Researchers & Studies Mentioned:
Minnesota Longitudinal Study of Risk and Adaptation (Sroufe, Egeland et al.)
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles...

Attachment Diathesis-Stress Process Model (Simpson & Rholes, Current Opinion in Psychology, 2017)
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles...

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⚠️ Disclaimer:
This video is for informational purposes only and does not substitute medical or therapeutic advice. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for personal support.

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