10 Relationship Advice That Make Your Love Life Worse

Описание: From a 2023 study analyzing millions of couples showing 82-89% similarity in successful pairs to research confirming "playing games" backfires, this reveals 10 pieces of advice making your love life worse. Stop following conventional wisdom. Start following science.

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RESEARCH SOURCES:

Opposites Don't Attract Study (2023):
Horwitz, T. B., et al. (2023). "Assortative mating on ancestry and ancestry-related phenotypes in the United States." Nature Human Behaviour


Study analyzing 130+ traits across millions of couples showing 82-89% similarity
URL: https://www.nature.com/articles/s4156...


Fatal Attractions Research:
Felmlee, D. (1995). "Fatal attractions: Affection and disaffection in intimate relationships." Journal of Social and Personal Relationships


Research on how opposite qualities that initially attract become sources of friction
URL: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1...


Playing Hard to Get Study:
Eastwick, P. W., et al. (2007). "Selectivity and urgency in romantic relationships." Psychological Science


Research showing we're attracted to selective people, not those who act disinterested
URL: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1...


Gottman's Conflict Research:
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work


Finding that 69% of marital problems are perpetual and unresolvable
URL: https://www.gottman.com/


Similarity and Attraction Meta-Analysis:
Montoya, R. M., Horton, R. S., & Kirchner, J. (2008). "Is actual similarity necessary for attraction? A meta-analysis of actual and perceived similarity." Journal of Social and Personal Relationships


Review of 313 studies with 35,000+ participants showing similarity predicts attraction
URL: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1...


Stanford Facebook Data Study:
Backstrom, L., & Kleinberg, J. (2014). "Romantic partnerships and the dispersion of social ties." WWW '14: Proceedings of the 23rd International Conference on World Wide Web


Analysis showing "birds of a feather flock together" in relationships
URL: https://dl.acm.org/doi/10.1145/256648...


Additional Reading:

Finkel, E. J., et al. (2012). "Online dating: A critical analysis." Psychological Science in the Public Interest
Haselton, M. G., & Buss, D. M. (2000). "Error management theory." Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
Aron, A., et al. (1997). "The experimental generation of interpersonal closeness." Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin (the "36 questions" study)