The Words We Live Inside: How Self-Talk Shapes Our Relationship with Self with Laura Burkey

Описание: If you’ve been living inside harsh inner language — the kind that quietly tightens your body, fragments your focus, or makes ordinary life feel heavier than it needs to be — this episode is an invitation to come home.

In this episode of Unscripted & Unstoppable, Laureen Quick is joined by Laura Burkey, Thought-Behavior and Communication Coach and creator of Words That Work, for a grounded conversation about self-talk as relationship.

Together, they explore a simple but profound truth: words are not just something we say — they are something we live inside. And the seemingly mundane phrases we repeat (“this is going to be hard,” “I’ll try,” “the problem is…”) can either create stability and momentum, or quietly fragment our energy, emotional steadiness, and presence.

This is not a conversation about “being positive.”

It’s about sincerity.
It’s about nervous system regulation.
It’s about learning to speak in ways your body can actually follow.

And it’s about remembering one of the most healing phrases we can return to — especially in seasons of change:

"Even though ________, I am okay anyway."

~What You’ll Learn~

-Why your relationship with self is shaped, daily, by the words you use internally

-How “hard” and “easy” can act like programmable switches in the nervous system

-Why “try” creates suspension (and how it quietly weakens follow-through)

-How the word “how” can trigger stress — and why “ways” creates forward motion

-Why calling things “problems” can generate fragmentation — and what to replace it with

-The difference between “positive talk” and sincere language your body believes

-Laura’s pivotal shift: noticing how she spoke to herself after work — and “closing the loop”

-Why emotional safety is central to self-trust during life transitions

-A calming practice: “Even though ________, I am okay anyway.”

~Chapters~

00:00 Relationship with self
02:48 What you say paves your way
06:12 Hard vs easy and the body
14:33 Language during life transitions
19:16 Closing the loop with self
30:28 Safety, insecurity, and “okay”
41:56 Four words that fragment energy
53:11 One practice to take with you

~About Laura Burkey~

Laura Burkey is a Thought-Behavior and Communication Coach and the creator of Words That Work. She works at the intersection of language, consciousness, and performance, helping people understand how specific everyday words shape perception, emotional steadiness, and presence.

With nearly three decades of experience, Laura shows how small shifts in the words people think, feel, and speak can condition a stable baseline of clarity and confidence that is unconditional, along with natural follow-through. Words are our creative medium — and Laura teaches how to let your words work for you.

~Laura’s Gift: Words That Work (Free Event)~

Laura offers a free experience called Words That Work — a simple, powerful event where she highlights everyday words and phrases that may seem mundane, yet carry remarkable influence.

She’ll show you which words create stability and momentum, and which ones quietly fragment energy and focus — so you can begin letting your words work for you.

RSVP: https://lauraburkeycoaching.com/event...

~Connect with Laura Burkey~

Website: https://lauraburkeycoaching.com/

Facebook:   / lauraburkeycoaching  

Substack: https://substack.com/@useyourwordpower

LinkedIn:   / thoughtbehaviorcoach  

~Moving Forward~

If this conversation stirred something in you — especially the desire to pause, listen more closely, or stay with what’s arising — you’re not alone.

This month I’m hosting "Braving the Inner Terrain," a live Zoom masterclass for women 50+.
It’s not about fixing yourself. It’s about orientation — learning how to remain present inside uncertainty, emotional complexity, and change, without rushing to resolve what needs time.

👉 Learn more + register here:
https://mailchi.mp/5c795950619a/qniu5...

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I’m so glad you’re here.

©Laureen Quick, 2026