How to Listen When You Disagree

Описание: Listening when you don't agree with the other person is hard https://www.inviteCHANGE.com Master Certified Coach Janet M. Harvey shares how to address disagreements in two ways - things you can do before that conversation, and things you can do in the middle of that conversation. 0:00

Human beings are emotional, and if what we love deeply are threatened, we become protectors. It's OK - it's part of our DNA.

Here are a few pointers on how to listen when you disagree with another person

How to prepare yourself before the conversation happens:
02:06 Give yourself a bit of structure. When you have a habit restored, you'll find that your ability to be with things that are really upsetting is going to get stronger.

02:47 Spend some time thinking about yourself - your worldview, cultural orientation, history, your values, etc. Make a little room each day and keep track of the things you care about, the things that restored your faith in yourself and the people around you. Keep track of the decisions and contributions you've made.

During the conversation:
05:22 Think Anger = Love. Approach from a place of love.

07:02 "Yes, I see you're really angry at this organization."
"Yes, I see that what's been said is really hurtful."
"Tell me about you." "How did it come to this moment?" "What is it you want?" What would restore your sense of faith and fairness in this situation?" "What resource could be provided here that would calm this situation down, so we can think more clearly, and have a way forward?"

08:47 "How will we continue this conversation?"


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