Overcoming People-Pleasing with Dyslexia

Описание: People-pleasing often stems from low self-esteem, a common challenge for dyslexic individuals. This behavior can develop as a way to avoid conflict, gain approval, or escape the fear of failure rooted in childhood experiences. However, constantly saying “yes” and putting others’ needs first can lead to bottled-up resentment, self-devaluation, and frustration. In this video, I’ll explore the origins of people-pleasing, its connection to dyslexia, and how to recognize whether you’re stuck in this pattern. Together, we’ll uncover tools to break free and prioritize yourself in a healthy, constructive way.

⏰ Timetable:
00:00 - Intro
00:43 - Definition
01:47 - Am I a people pleaser?
02:58 - People pleasing vs. just being nice
03:25 - The Origins of People Pleasing (Dyslexia)
04:52 - Personal insight
05:38 - Resentment and Anger
06:40 - Tool #1 (give-get ratio)
07:28 - Personal Journey
09:04 - Tool #2 (Self-monitoring)
10:11 - Tool #3 (Preferences and Opinions)
10:59 - final remarks

🙋🏼‍♂️ My name is Arije, and I am a dyslexic with an MA in Education Studies. I aim to share all my tips for learning, coping, teaching, and more on my channel. For dyslexics, educators, and parents alike, I want to make videos that inform and inspire you to reframe dyslexia.

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Here's some of the literature I consulted to create this video:
Young, Jeffrey E., et al. Reinventing Your Life: the Bestselling Breakthrough Program to End
Negative Behaviour and Feel Great. Scribe, 2019.
Young, Jeffrey E., et al. Schema Therapy: a Practitioners Guide. Guilford, 2007.