Stop Overthinking Social Situations: The Mindset Shift That Freed Me

Описание: Do you ever find yourself frozen in social situations, haunted by what others might think of you? In this video, I reveal the insights that triggered a mindset shift and helped free me from the shackles of social anxiety.

This is a reading from my book: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

📚 What You'll Learn:
This video dismantles the myth of the ‘hypervigilant audience’ that fuels your anxiety. You’ll learn you’re not the center of attention you think you are, backed by eye-opening psychological studies on topics like the ‘Spotlight Effect.’ Discover why most people are too wrapped up in their own worlds to notice you, and how embracing your ‘social invisibility’ can actually set you free to connect authentically.

📖 What’s in the Rest of the Book Chapter?
A cringe-worthy social experiment my friend and I conducted in a crowded bar to test just how much—or little—people notice when we get humiliated.
The surprising science of human empathy and memory that proves why you’re not the center of everyone’s world.
Real-world stories and scientific insights that will embolden you to drop the armor of self-protection and move toward genuine connection.

For a deep dive into the science and stories that debunk our social anxieties, check out my book. It offers a comprehensive look at how you can liberate yourself from social paralysis and experience true connection.

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Today we'll talk about:

0:00 - Intro
0:33 - The Hypervigilant Crowd
1:59 - Attempts to Appear High Value
3:52 - The Spotlight Effect
6:44 - Attention is Finite
10:03 - Get more in my book

I'm Dr. Thomas Smithyman, a clinical psychologist making videos to help people improve their social lives and overcome social anxiety.

QUESTION — Have a question about anything related to socializing or social anxiety? Post in the comments section of this video.

MY BOOK
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ONLINE GROUP THERAPY
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ONLINE THERAPY
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My mission here is to use video to help people overcome social anxiety. Most people with social anxiety never seek help, and those who do usually wait 16 years! Treatment is effective but people don't know about it. I'd like that to change, and I'd really appreciate any help.




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DISCLAIMER
This information is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for clinical care. Please consult a health care provider for guidance specific to your case.