The Psychology of People Who Can’t Stop Overexplaining Themselves​

Описание: Some people can’t just say “no,” “I’m busy,” or “I disagree” — the words come wrapped in long explanations, apologies, and justifications. This video explores the psychology of people who can’t stop overexplaining themselves: the ones who send huge texts to defend a simple choice, rehearse conversations in their head, and feel a powerful need to prove they’re not selfish, rude, or “the bad one.”

Here, we dive into where this pattern begins: homes where motives were constantly questioned, environments with volatile reactions, emotional abuse that made every word feel dangerous, and people‑pleasing beliefs that your worth depends on everyone staying happy with you. The video shows how this turns into adult habits like oversharing, struggling to say a clean “no,” trying to manage other people’s emotions, and feeling responsible for being perfectly understood at all times.

If you feel exhausted from defending your choices, or guilty whenever you set a boundary without a long story attached, this episode is for you. We’ll gently unpack why your nervous system learned that overexplaining equals safety, and explore how to practice shorter, honest answers, tolerate being “misunderstood” sometimes, and move from compulsive justification to calm, grounded communication where your needs can exist without a trial.